Daily Archives:

February 20, 2018

How can you motivate others?

Usually when an individual motivates another, there is a sheer energy that drives them to lend a hand to influence the next person. When motivating someone you have to truly have and show true interest in the venue and the person to whom you’re relating with. The reason for this is, I’m sure the fact or the lack of trust, belief or understanding is not present with the person being motivated.

Motivating a friend…

I remember a time when I was attempting to motivate a friend to be able to talk to girls. He naturally talked a lot, but when he would get around the opposite sex he would clam up and not say a word, even if he liked the girl and really wanted to create an on going conversation or even a relationship. Naturally I wanted to help this friend, so I started listing for him all the good and positive reasons why it would be to his advantage to speak at the appropriate time.

He agreed with what I said, but when the situation presented itself the same old response took over and there he was with nothing to say.

Don’t give up if your message isn’t heard the first time…

So back to the drawing board, I took it upon myself to demonstrate for him in a live situation how easy it could be to talk to the ladies, by being cool calm and collective. Then it hit me. It’s not that he didn’t know what to say to girls, he was just too nervous to speak. So to come to a conclusion I came up with this idea and it was to take the problem head on. I invited the girl that my friend likes over and I explained to her the situation and come to find out, she liked him also. Perfect! So I had my friend to come by and I had the young lady wait in another room so when he arrived he wouldn’t know she was there.

Sometimes you have to get creative and let the third time be the charm…

So when he got there we sat down and started talking about how he felt and after a while I had her to come out of the next room and talk to my friend. I realized the way to motivate him was to have him face the situation head on, no matter how nervous he would get.  Come to find out, the problem only existed from a lack of confidence. Once he started talking, he never stopped. The two people have been happily married for a very long time.

It was difficult solution to a simple problem. The key to motivating others is to never give up in helping them reach your goals. Staying the course in the long run is rewarding to both you and the one’s you love. Love is the answer

Now pass this message forward by sharing this song- Love is the answer {audio}love-is-the-answer.mp3{/audio}

Deryo

The Bay Area

What I like most about the area I live in (THE BAY AREA) is the versatility of the region, with places to eat, and entertain you and it’s people. You can find almost every variation you can imagine.

Food

For instance, I’ve been getting sandwiches from Genova’s for over 15 years. My tip: avoid the lunch crowd which usually lasts from noon- until 3ish. They’ll never sale out of sandwiches, unlike some other lady I know-(Bake sale Betty).

There are plenty of places to get a cup of clam chowder in the Bay Area, but if you’re not getting it from San Francisco I don’t even want to hear about it. The best place to get clam chowder is on Fisherman’s Wharf. Any place will do, but the only place I’ll pluck money down with is Tarantino’s. Cons: It’s so good you have to take a pint home, and they rarely have to go containers 🙁

Sports

Yes they have their ups and downs, but I love my World Champion S.F Giants, 49ers, Raiders and the Oakland A’s.

Weather…!

You can also find almost every type of weather in the circumference of about 200 miles. In some areas the beauty of the scenery is breath taking and then on the other hand you can wonder upon a scene that could take your breath away. Where else, but the Bay Area can you grab a sandwich and look out across the water all within your lunch hour?

But through all of it, I love talking to the people, people of all races, genders and concept of thinking. Just like the climate and scenery, the nature of the people vary, but when it comes down to pulling together or just giving a smile when it matters, the Bay Area pulls, lives, works, plays and grows together.

Believing and hoping,

Deryo

Let Me Finish

I wish that…

I hope you…

Did I tell you…?

Can we…?

You will always…

Let me…

I will always love you, because my love runs deeper than any challenge.

How many times has it been when you’ve had a very deep emotional feeling and couldn’t give it or finish the thought to the person it was attended for?

Never put off telling someone your true feelings of love, always finish expressing your devotion.

I guess I’m finished,

Deryo

What Would You Say?

What would you say if someone offered you a million dollars, but wouldn’t let you know where the money came from?

What would you say if the women/man you love asked you to marry them, but they had just had an indiscretion and they told you about it right after they popped the question?

What would you say if you didn’t believe in an idea and it was against your principles, but you would be compensated if you backed the idea?

What would you say to a person if you knew they where lying, but it would hurt their feelings if you let them know you knew they were lying?

What would you say or do to be happy?

Let me know what you would say or do, by commenting below on this page, I dare you.

Hoping I would say and do the right thing.

Deryo

The Meaning and Joy of Laughter

When you think about it, laughter creates one of the few times when you’re able to completely push aside problems, differences and anything that invokes negativity. Don’t you feel good when you see someone truly engulfed in laughter? I know I do, it allows you to feel free, fresh, joyful and inspired. I can remember a time when I was at Children’s Hospital Oakland, taking care of my daughter and seeing the people as well as myself bring laughter to the sick children. I could see the warmth and possibilities of wellness exuberating from their smiles. Yes laughter heals, if you don’t believe that, then try it and you’ll see and feel.

Laughing as I think about it,

Deryo

Standing in The Sun

The shining of the light that radiates from the sun, gives me energy to love. The heat pushes down on my body making it heavy with might, that allows me to stand here and just love you. You, you are my sun, the sun that makes the rain run and run and run off my face, when ever sadness comes my way. E, your the light who shines so bright, that it allows me to see my future and my future is you. YOU ARE MY SUN.

Please, never turn off the light,

Deryo

Dedicated to all who do, all that will and all who know love.

A Time For Thanks

Ever since I gained the true value of honoring the thanks you give in return for what you have received, I know it is something that you should do in every moment of your life.  Now understand what I mean, and that is a thought I give in an individualistic demeanor.  But it is also a wonderful thing to designate a particular day, so we as a country can unite as one, creating a unified day of thanks. I’m sure this has value, such as bringing people together and opening minds to be aware of something that is so important, and that is being thankful for the good and love in your life. So may God continue to bless you as you give thanks for the blessings you receive.

Happy Thanksgiving,

Deryo

How to Be a Muse

While surfing through the channels on my TV, I came upon an old movie called The Muse. Starring as the muse was the lovely Sharon Stone. This is a fun little comedy, which is a nice break from her fatal attraction type movies.  In The Muse, it was Sharon Stone’s job to help to inspire a struggling screenwriter (played by Albert Brooks) who was suffering from writers block. But the problem was, the writer truly didn’t believe in the talents of the muse.

Nobody ever trusts the Muse

In the writer’s defense the muse did ask for crazy things in order to receive her help, like demanding to sleep in his master bedroom. Judging from the movie, one of the important ways to begin to steer the writer in the right direction was to gain his trust and belief in the muse. So, she challenged him by demanding things from him that would put her in control.

After gaining his unconditional attention she was able to start creating the task of building his ability to relax and open up his mind, which would tear down the wall that was blocking his flow of ideas. Ka-ching! He was back in business.

It’s Hard out there for a Muse

So I guess one would say, being a muse is something like a parent who is teaching a child who doesn’t listen to their positive advice. Of course the muse or parent is usually right (sigh*).

So if you want to be a muse you gotta be willing to be aggressive, and be prepared to hold back the desire to say I told you so. Eventually, just like Albert Brook’s character they’ll realize how valuable you are🙂

My Favorite Guilty Pleasure

Ok I’m going to open up a little here and talk about what used to be one of a few guilty pleasures for me. Now understand me, I’m only going to speak on one for now, I’ll get back to you on the others. Maybe.

The pleasure was a TV program I used to watch and I felt guilty, because I use to talk about anyone who watched it prior. I’m just not sure exactly what truly spellbound me; I just had to watch it every day it came on. I know you’re asking yourself, “how could you take the time to do that?” Well I had it set for recording daily and I would find time at night to watch it.

Ok here we go, I’m going to tell you the name of the program, but first I must let you know that even though I didn’t truly want people to know I watched it, I couldn’t help watching it. It seemed like I got a certain type of release each time I viewed the program.

Ok, ok I’ll tell you, but only because it doesn’t come on any more. The program was…  All My Children; ok there I’ve given you my use-to-be favorite guilty pleasure. Now it’s your turn to tell me in return, what is your favorite guilty pleasure? It can be anything, just as long as it’s yours and you are telling me the truth. Ha-Ha.

Giving it up,

Deryo

Holiday Shopping

This is the time of the year that I enjoy most, because it’s a time when most of us tend to share love, understand, show goodwill and last but not least giving. Even with the weather, it tends to put you in more of a relaxed frame of mind—well when you’re not working. So let me talk about the giving aspect of the season, because that involves a great deal of shopping. This is also the time when you can find wonderful deals on the pricing of items you may want to purchase. But you also must watch yourself, because it is very easy to over spend. Take me for instance, I went shopping at Macys the other day for a few small gifts and left the store with furniture, jewelry and clothes, let me say it like this; fifteen hundred easily became four thousand and my reasoning was, “if I would have bought it before the sale it could have cost me ten thousand.” That always works-how do I know, because it works on me! So the moral of this shopping tale is, enjoy yourself and be happy and blessed.

Tell me about some of your seasonal shopping adventures.

Happy Holidays, 

Deryo